I wish I had more information on how to find a cheating spouse on craigslist, or friendfinder, but all I have is what I have shared so far......unless you have access to someone's email it takes a lot of online time, sorting and weeding out in order to get lucky enough to find out anything definite.
The extra Hotmail email my husband was using for all the online dating sites, over the last few weeks he has stopped getting much if any activity there. I've wondered if he has opened another alternate email address. It wouldn't surprise me since he has a habit of leaving additional email accounts all over the net. And some of the search engines I have mentioned, Pipl. Spokeo, zabasearch to name a few can't give me info on an person's email, if they don't put their real name on it when they register.
But the one thing I have learned is to wait and keep quiet. Eventually he will slip, or something else wil tip me off.
Until that happens,
Jane
Having some similar issues here. I'm thinking of getting a disposable cell and actually waiting for him to take the bait and start texting him.
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If you are positive he has online dating profiles or has cheated and you can leave I would or at least be in a position to so. You have more power if you know you are not trapped. if you confront him and things fall apart you need to know you can take care of yourself and if you have children.
ReplyDeleteDocument any proof and good luck and be careful.
Personally I can't leave as I am financially trapped. I will be talking more about that soon.
No online dating profiles that I could find. He logged on to his YAHOO account last week from my work laptop and didn't log out. There were a handful of replies to Craigslist postings in his SENT mail dating back to May 2012 (which I quickly forwarded to my personal email account, archived and printed). I stayed logged in until last night when I shut down my laptop last night so I'm logged out now.
ReplyDeleteIn the last few months he has gotten intense about losing weight (not that he was huge)so he lost about 40 pounds, has started really toning up, little sex being given up and really just not being interested in me (I'm used to "just because" flowers and sweet messages throughout the day)
We had a baby last year which has changed things (obviously). He is a few years younger than me.
I work Full Time and I could sustain outside of this marriage comfortably. I would prefer not to do that for personal & business reasons.
This is my struggle: Do I put the energy into catching him do this? I don't believe it would be hard to do and I could hire someone to do this if I needed to.
You didn't say if his email replies were to personal ads on craigslist. If they were I will say this. I wish I could have left 2 years ago when I found the FIRST dating profile of my husbands. All the time and emotions I have wasted looking for more proof (who really needs more). I envy independent women, to be able to stay with a man because you want to not because you have to. Or you can confront him now with your proof and give him an ultimatum....but that will just make him sneakier if he continues. Suggested reading http://chumplady.com/ and as many entries from this blog as you have time for http://surviveyourpartnersaffair.com/blog/2012/07/18/a-conspiracy-of-secrecy/
DeleteOn a side note-I am disgusted by how MANY people are just on Craigslist looking to cheat and how they will just send pictures from an email account. Shaking my head....
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way, I begin to wonder if there are any normal people out there.
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ReplyDeleteI decided yesterday that I am not going to obsess about this (easier said than done). I found 2 interesting products that claim to track ALL activity-one is Cell Tracker which claims to install software on SO phone with a 30 second phone call and it allows your phone to ring when their phone is called, listen to the call, view text messages, etc.
ACE SPY is software for computers that tracks keystrokes, passwords, etc. at a very affordable price-about $120 for both. Will let it do the work for me.
The email replies were to personal ads on Craigslist.
Glad you are set on a course that works for you. I personally don't have access to my husbands computer, makes it more of a challenge. Good luck. BTW, you can also put a locator on the cell phone....mine is through Sprint, $5 a month and I can set up periodic checks or check through the website, tells me within a good margin where his cell phone is.
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