Sometimes you get a credit card offer in the mail and it has one of those flimsy cardboard type cards with the offer.
Sometimes you get a credit card in the mail already with your name and expiration date on it! Just like my husband did last week. One was for a regular card with a $300 limit and the other was for a pre-paid. I happened to get the mail those days and he claims he never applied for them.
So I said okay....like I am really that stupid and I cut them up.
Until next time........can anyone else hear the circus music????
Jane
Showing posts with label Cheating husband. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Cheating husband. Show all posts
Monday, September 23, 2013
Monday, August 26, 2013
Whine Dine and Wedding Rings
Okay, I'm not going to rehash the whole drama of my husband coming home with out his wedding ring on and even leaving in the morning without it on. You can read that post yourself here.
Last night he come home without it and never put it back on. We went out to grab a bite to eat. No ring. The point is this: he isn't even aware anymore when he doesn't have it on.
I feel naked without mine!!
So when we get back home, I ask where is it. He comes out to watch TV in his sweats with it on.
When I ask why, he says "You were whining so I put it on."
WTF?? Whining? I must be really nagging when I tell him to stay out of the dating sites.
I'm still broke, in debt without a job. I don't see this ending well at all.
Unitl next time,
Jane
Saturday, August 10, 2013
Just the Ticket
Look out, I have officially shifted in to anger mode.
There is a venue coming to town next month I would love to see. Not something I normally do in fact.
My husband tells me last night that he tried on his phone (not a very good phone) to look up on how to buy tickets for this venue, but couldn't figure it out. He tells me we may as well go and why don't I figure out how to buy the tickets and of course I agreed.
Then this morning after thinking about it I have decided that as much as I want to go I am NOT doing the leg work here. If he asks I'll tell him, "You can figure out how to set up extra email accounts, how to sign up for dating sites and how to apply for and get credit cards without telling me. So if it were important for you to do this one thing for me I'm certain you can figure it out."
Until next time,
Jane
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Three Strikes Your Out
Sure, I can keep asking him why he looks around on online dating sites and precipitate a fight, but I'd rather spend my energy on something else.
After all, I told him three times that sort of behavior was unacceptable and why would he do anything that may make me think he's being unfaithful, but he continues to do the same trashy things. So that must be his answer. I know he heard me, he even responded to the conversation and I know he's not unintelligent. Stupid maybe, but that's a different story.
It took awhile for the reality of his actions and what they mean to sift down into my core, and it's a sad sad feeling but it's the final truth of my marriage. It's time to go. Maybe I can't leave tomorrow or next month but I will .
until next time,
Jane
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
Carrot on the Stick Sticking it to Me
We all know what chasing the carrot on the stick means. The clever farmer hung the tasty treat just far enough out of reach of his naive donkey to keep it moving in the direction he wanted.
The gaslighting cheater does the same. My husband has lead me further into debt with various methods, each one disguised to keep me following.
In the beginning he didn't have to dress that lowly ole carrot up too much. I had been a single mother who wore her kids shoes after they had outgrown them. I was perpetually five pounds under weight and let my kids eat first before I put anything on my plate.
A steady income, the ability to buy new shoes for my kids, pay all the bills on time was treat enough.
Then came the butter and glaze on that carrot. Extra money for a new car....one he wanted of course. Or maybe for someone in his family. He talked me into taking out cash advances in order to buy something before the money came. The only problem was that once the money came in he was no longer interested in taking care of that debt. He had his eyes set on something else he wanted to buy or spend that money on.
It wasn't long before I was in more debt than I would ever be able to pay off on my own. So I chased that carrot, now dressed up with Hollandaise sauce with fantasies of taking that next windfall and paying off a credit card or fixing something in the house. Only that never happened.
There were different times when I considered jumping off of this runaway train but a few thousand in the bank didn't seem like enough to live on. Or the credit cards were so close to be paid off, or I was still dazzled by that darn carrot.
Now, thousands of dollars in debt, a bad housing market and economy and an old car on it's last gasp, that few thousand in the bank and a house I could have sold looks real good.
And I wonder, now that I have no credit value or cash value is it time for him to go dangle that carrot in front of another woman?
Until next time,
Jane
The gaslighting cheater does the same. My husband has lead me further into debt with various methods, each one disguised to keep me following.
In the beginning he didn't have to dress that lowly ole carrot up too much. I had been a single mother who wore her kids shoes after they had outgrown them. I was perpetually five pounds under weight and let my kids eat first before I put anything on my plate.
A steady income, the ability to buy new shoes for my kids, pay all the bills on time was treat enough.
Then came the butter and glaze on that carrot. Extra money for a new car....one he wanted of course. Or maybe for someone in his family. He talked me into taking out cash advances in order to buy something before the money came. The only problem was that once the money came in he was no longer interested in taking care of that debt. He had his eyes set on something else he wanted to buy or spend that money on.
It wasn't long before I was in more debt than I would ever be able to pay off on my own. So I chased that carrot, now dressed up with Hollandaise sauce with fantasies of taking that next windfall and paying off a credit card or fixing something in the house. Only that never happened.
There were different times when I considered jumping off of this runaway train but a few thousand in the bank didn't seem like enough to live on. Or the credit cards were so close to be paid off, or I was still dazzled by that darn carrot.
Now, thousands of dollars in debt, a bad housing market and economy and an old car on it's last gasp, that few thousand in the bank and a house I could have sold looks real good.
And I wonder, now that I have no credit value or cash value is it time for him to go dangle that carrot in front of another woman?
Until next time,
Jane
Tuesday, June 4, 2013
, Wedding Ring Blues Blue Jeans That IS
I do understand that some jobs and/or situations require my husband to take his wedding band off, working on the car...even at his work. What I DON'T understand is this:
If I had to take my wedding ring off for work, as soon as I left I would put it on. I feel odd without my ring on, though I do take it off at night, but to leave my house without it on is weird.
So, on the off chance he forgets to put it back on, as he says....he's in a hurry to leave, then why does he put it IN HIS POCKET when he gets dressed in the morning.
He leaves very early and it is dark. Since I've been staying in bed until after he leaves he puts the damn thing in his pocket and walks out the door.
Of course for 2 years now he has been forgetting to put it on as he leaves work. He stops at Best Buy, Lowes, for gas etc and prances about without his ring on.
For a few months he drove his corvette to work, back and forth 50 miles each way, without his ring on and his arm hanging out his window. (It was a 79 with no A/C).
His truck was acting up, I offered to let him take my car. Of course not (we're still talking 50 miles each way) better to take the chance on his truck not making it then to be seen in my car. May not fit in with whatever story he's telling 'someone.'
Until next time,
Jane
If I had to take my wedding ring off for work, as soon as I left I would put it on. I feel odd without my ring on, though I do take it off at night, but to leave my house without it on is weird.
So, on the off chance he forgets to put it back on, as he says....he's in a hurry to leave, then why does he put it IN HIS POCKET when he gets dressed in the morning.
He leaves very early and it is dark. Since I've been staying in bed until after he leaves he puts the damn thing in his pocket and walks out the door.
Of course for 2 years now he has been forgetting to put it on as he leaves work. He stops at Best Buy, Lowes, for gas etc and prances about without his ring on.
For a few months he drove his corvette to work, back and forth 50 miles each way, without his ring on and his arm hanging out his window. (It was a 79 with no A/C).
His truck was acting up, I offered to let him take my car. Of course not (we're still talking 50 miles each way) better to take the chance on his truck not making it then to be seen in my car. May not fit in with whatever story he's telling 'someone.'
Until next time,
Jane
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
I Love A Man in Uniform
On the UpForIt, BeNaughty, Shagaholic sites as you look at the search page there are ads for their other sites. The newest ad is "Do you want to date a man in uniform?" With pictures of young, fit handsome men in uniforms. UniformDating.com
Myself, I've always had a weakness for a man in uniform, present husband included. And since my husband was/is and always will be, a Marine I figured I would check and see if he succumbed to his ego and joined that site.
Well, he hadn't but I had to laugh out loud.
Think about it, the 60 something, balding, paunchy man next door, probably served four years in the Army or Navy when he was 18. But unless he was a career military man or special ops, you probably wouldn't know it to look at him. In other words, the profile list was the same as the other sites.
Possibly if you search through the 20 year olds you will find men in uniform that look like they belong in a uniform.
Myself, I've always had a weakness for a man in uniform, present husband included. And since my husband was/is and always will be, a Marine I figured I would check and see if he succumbed to his ego and joined that site.
Well, he hadn't but I had to laugh out loud.
Think about it, the 60 something, balding, paunchy man next door, probably served four years in the Army or Navy when he was 18. But unless he was a career military man or special ops, you probably wouldn't know it to look at him. In other words, the profile list was the same as the other sites.
Possibly if you search through the 20 year olds you will find men in uniform that look like they belong in a uniform.
Tuesday, January 1, 2013
The Other Woman, Cell Phone, Email
Some of you may know the feeling you got when you found your spouses other cell phone or email. That sinking energy draining feeling of falling.
I had forgotten that feeling, I had become complacent because I have to admit that I would miss my husband terribly if he were gone.
But it all came crushing down on my the other day. He asked me to do something for him on his computer....even gave me the sign in and password to a new email he had to make for a particular site (a non dating site). Before I sat down to do it for him I had an errand to run. The feeling that sank into my gut as I was running the errand drained me. I had forgotten how horrible I had felt the first time I found the dating email in his "other" email. The email he had for 6 months before I found out about it.
I have been living in a delusion. He's been so good lately. To my surprise he had given up a weekly opportunity that gave him a chance to be online privately. The time he had been using to check his dating profiles, or make new ones. He had bought me gifts I had really been wanting. He hadn't bought me gifts in years.
Sure, I had fallen in to the luke warm, brain numbing waters of denial. I had fallen willingly.
But those awful feelings I had while running that errand. Later I found out that the new email really was new...only hours old. But of course that doesn't change anything.
Where do I go with this? I don't know.
Until next time,
Jane
I had forgotten that feeling, I had become complacent because I have to admit that I would miss my husband terribly if he were gone.
But it all came crushing down on my the other day. He asked me to do something for him on his computer....even gave me the sign in and password to a new email he had to make for a particular site (a non dating site). Before I sat down to do it for him I had an errand to run. The feeling that sank into my gut as I was running the errand drained me. I had forgotten how horrible I had felt the first time I found the dating email in his "other" email. The email he had for 6 months before I found out about it.
I have been living in a delusion. He's been so good lately. To my surprise he had given up a weekly opportunity that gave him a chance to be online privately. The time he had been using to check his dating profiles, or make new ones. He had bought me gifts I had really been wanting. He hadn't bought me gifts in years.
Sure, I had fallen in to the luke warm, brain numbing waters of denial. I had fallen willingly.
But those awful feelings I had while running that errand. Later I found out that the new email really was new...only hours old. But of course that doesn't change anything.
Where do I go with this? I don't know.
Until next time,
Jane
Thursday, September 27, 2012
Best Advice About A Cheating Spouse
The other morning I was thinking about all the cat and mouse hide and seek I have been doing across the internet with or about my husband over the past two years.
If I could do it all over again from the first email I found that said he had matches on friendfinder knowing what I know now, this is what I would have done. And here is my best advice if you find evidence of a cheating spouse.
In my case, an email leading directly to an online dating profile.....no doubt it was my husbands. If I had know then what the best move was by this point it would all be done one way or the other.
This is what I should have done. Instead of confronting him and listening to him lie and deny, I should have forwarded the email to my email account (as I did, so that I could easily log in using the link in the email) but instead of asking him about it I should have kept my mouth shut and watched to see what he did. Chances are he would have communicated with somebody and arranged a meeting, Then there would be no questions or wondering. It would be done.
Until next time,
Jane
If I could do it all over again from the first email I found that said he had matches on friendfinder knowing what I know now, this is what I would have done. And here is my best advice if you find evidence of a cheating spouse.
In my case, an email leading directly to an online dating profile.....no doubt it was my husbands. If I had know then what the best move was by this point it would all be done one way or the other.
This is what I should have done. Instead of confronting him and listening to him lie and deny, I should have forwarded the email to my email account (as I did, so that I could easily log in using the link in the email) but instead of asking him about it I should have kept my mouth shut and watched to see what he did. Chances are he would have communicated with somebody and arranged a meeting, Then there would be no questions or wondering. It would be done.
Until next time,
Jane
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Where is My Husband On Line?
I've mentioned before that if you have set up your own profiles on dating sites to be sure and check the emails they send to you in order not to miss one that may have your spouses profile featured in it.
Another reason to check these emails is this: Each dating/personals site have their own graphics...the little picture of a heart, intertwined hearts, or other logo. They also have certain colors associated with their site and the set up of the profile pictures they send in the email are done a certain way. Some sites send a list style with fairly large profile pictures. Other send a grid. Some have thick blue lines between each profile...etc. You get the idea. Lastely, on each site, the "grayman" for those who don't upload a profile picture is distinctive. Some look like the generic hotmail man...or myspace man (of course the myspace has multiple men). Some are a gray shadow and so on.
One reason it is important to become familiar or pay attention to these differences is sometimes you can catch a glimpse of your spouses computer screen and if they are like my husband who is so smug that he thinks he's getting away with something they will look at their emails...or even possibly the site itself, while you are in the same room. So you catch a glimpse of an email he's looking at with rows of pictures....hmmmm, that's not facebook. Could me match or several others.
Right now my husband doesn't appear to be visiting the sites he had been for the past year, so I'm not stupid enough to think he has changed his ways, instead I need a clue as to what he is doing.
Yesterday he was looking at an email that sent rows of pictures, so as I was checking email this morning I was paying attention.
I also saw him signing up for a site and all I could see was a cartoon palm tree and it said "it's easy" and the grayman looked like the msn man but two of them in bright yellow. Still haven't figured that one out.
Until next time....pay attention.
Jane
Another reason to check these emails is this: Each dating/personals site have their own graphics...the little picture of a heart, intertwined hearts, or other logo. They also have certain colors associated with their site and the set up of the profile pictures they send in the email are done a certain way. Some sites send a list style with fairly large profile pictures. Other send a grid. Some have thick blue lines between each profile...etc. You get the idea. Lastely, on each site, the "grayman" for those who don't upload a profile picture is distinctive. Some look like the generic hotmail man...or myspace man (of course the myspace has multiple men). Some are a gray shadow and so on.
One reason it is important to become familiar or pay attention to these differences is sometimes you can catch a glimpse of your spouses computer screen and if they are like my husband who is so smug that he thinks he's getting away with something they will look at their emails...or even possibly the site itself, while you are in the same room. So you catch a glimpse of an email he's looking at with rows of pictures....hmmmm, that's not facebook. Could me match or several others.
Right now my husband doesn't appear to be visiting the sites he had been for the past year, so I'm not stupid enough to think he has changed his ways, instead I need a clue as to what he is doing.
Yesterday he was looking at an email that sent rows of pictures, so as I was checking email this morning I was paying attention.
I also saw him signing up for a site and all I could see was a cartoon palm tree and it said "it's easy" and the grayman looked like the msn man but two of them in bright yellow. Still haven't figured that one out.
Until next time....pay attention.
Jane
Monday, May 14, 2012
Cheating Husband Finder
If only there was a search engine or data base that made finding online profiles from dating sites possible.
Apparently, several years ago there was one but I don't know if it actually worked. I suspect dating sites guard their privacy.
Though if I haven't already mention it and if I have, it's worth mentioning again, sometimes you can google a persons profile name or screen name. I happen to know one of my husbands dating profile names and it does come up in a google search. Even a srceen name, or the first part of an email address....minus the @ and everything after that is worth a try.
Spokeo.com has a limited free search but you can search a persons email and see if they have several profiles. The free version only shows you a row of profile icons or pictures but no information, though sometimes you can figure these things out.
I don't know that a private detective could find out anyone either, but I don't know.
Just a few thoughts.
Until next time,
Jane
Apparently, several years ago there was one but I don't know if it actually worked. I suspect dating sites guard their privacy.
Though if I haven't already mention it and if I have, it's worth mentioning again, sometimes you can google a persons profile name or screen name. I happen to know one of my husbands dating profile names and it does come up in a google search. Even a srceen name, or the first part of an email address....minus the @ and everything after that is worth a try.
Spokeo.com has a limited free search but you can search a persons email and see if they have several profiles. The free version only shows you a row of profile icons or pictures but no information, though sometimes you can figure these things out.
I don't know that a private detective could find out anyone either, but I don't know.
Just a few thoughts.
Until next time,
Jane
Sunday, May 13, 2012
One Hotmail, Two Hotmail Three Hotmail More??
The hotmail account my husband has been using for the last 2 years is the one where I have found all the account details for his Up For It (and all their related sites) account info, the friendfinder info (which is what started all of this) and account info for XXXmatch.
Now all of a sudden there are no emails coming in for any of those accounts. So the last few days I logged into several of them and checked the account settings. He did not unsubscribe or cancel the accounts but he did uncheck all the email notification choices. There has been no activity (on his part) so what does this mean?
Has he changed his ways? Not likely.
Bored with those sites where he can't really make any contact? Possibly
Met someone outside of his computer life? Maybe
Opened a new Hotmail account? Quite possibly.
Felt a little guilty with Mother's Day on the horizon? Unlikely, but maybe.
So I'm left with wondering if he has a new alternate email address or is logging in from his regular email and has opened accounts on new sites.
So once again I am back to square one am opening accounts on new sites and continuing to monitor the old ones.
Too bad I can't feel that maybe he has had a change of heart. But I know from before that even if he has, he will eventually go back to his trolling ways.
Until next time,
Jane
Now all of a sudden there are no emails coming in for any of those accounts. So the last few days I logged into several of them and checked the account settings. He did not unsubscribe or cancel the accounts but he did uncheck all the email notification choices. There has been no activity (on his part) so what does this mean?
Has he changed his ways? Not likely.
Bored with those sites where he can't really make any contact? Possibly
Met someone outside of his computer life? Maybe
Opened a new Hotmail account? Quite possibly.
Felt a little guilty with Mother's Day on the horizon? Unlikely, but maybe.
So I'm left with wondering if he has a new alternate email address or is logging in from his regular email and has opened accounts on new sites.
So once again I am back to square one am opening accounts on new sites and continuing to monitor the old ones.
Too bad I can't feel that maybe he has had a change of heart. But I know from before that even if he has, he will eventually go back to his trolling ways.
Until next time,
Jane
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Where are Your Manners?
I received an email from Mate1 the other day and since I hadn't logged in in a while I did. I clicked on the members interested in me link and there was a list of about ten men running vertically down the page and what struck me as so odd was that the majority of them were wearing ball caps! Sure, I might talk to a man standing in line to pay gas or at the grocery store that was wearing a ball cap and find him attractive but if every time I saw him his head was covered I would begin to wonder what was or wasn't under there and did he have any manners or would he clean up well for a date or social event.
Why would a man that knew he had one picture to try and catch a woman's attention and had possibly paid some money to do so would think that a small face picture of him wearing a ball cap was the very best picture and impression he could give? Tthat doesn't say much, at least not to me as a woman.
More on Mate1 later.
Until then
Jane
Why would a man that knew he had one picture to try and catch a woman's attention and had possibly paid some money to do so would think that a small face picture of him wearing a ball cap was the very best picture and impression he could give? Tthat doesn't say much, at least not to me as a woman.
More on Mate1 later.
Until then
Jane
Friday, March 9, 2012
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Caught Red Handed
The other morning I found an email that apparently my husband thought he had deleted, a welcome message for yet another online dating site. I was bitterly disappointed. It's a terrible feeling to see that he has the profile and then to read it and he says he is divorced looking for long term relationship. Is he just waiting until he finds something better and then he will leave?
My first impulse was to upload a picture of a donkey's ass as his profile picture, but I didn't, but I'm not through yet.
I'm trying to remain calm, I'm still not quite positioned for a confrontation. Soon, I'm hoping by August but if something comes up before I need to be prepared as much as possible.
This time I am as depressed as I was when I found the first evidence back in September of 2010...what does that tell me. I guess the whole relationship has been a lie and if you could see how he acts with me, you would never imagine he was window shopping other women.
Oh well, until next time,
Jane
My first impulse was to upload a picture of a donkey's ass as his profile picture, but I didn't, but I'm not through yet.
I'm trying to remain calm, I'm still not quite positioned for a confrontation. Soon, I'm hoping by August but if something comes up before I need to be prepared as much as possible.
This time I am as depressed as I was when I found the first evidence back in September of 2010...what does that tell me. I guess the whole relationship has been a lie and if you could see how he acts with me, you would never imagine he was window shopping other women.
Oh well, until next time,
Jane
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Are You Up For It?
I've been putting off revewing my experiences with these next sites...all part of one network...because there is so much to tell. I'm not even going to try and cover it in one post.
It started with my husband offhandedly telling me he had started a profile on a site just for fun to see what would happen. I know.....I'm really stupid. But here's the info.
The site was and still is UpForIt.com
It's a company out of the UK. My husband has a profile, no picture....his location, physical stats and is rated as having a profile that is 20% complete. He is a standard non paying member. In other words he can't do much without upgrading.
Anyway, between his profile which I managed to get the password to and the fake female profiles I have made I have found out a lot. All non paying profiles, though I have seen a lot of online posts/complaints about this site where both men and women have given in and paid for a membership and didn't have much luck and when they tried to cancel the company continued to take payments from their banks. Not very nice. A common complaint that I saw was that just before their memberships were set to expire, they would get a lot of promising emails and then once they paid those possible hook ups vanished like a lot of smoke.
Anyway. as a non paying member you can do zip code searches and look at the profile including the main picture, their stats and anything else they have written about themselves. Then there are ice breakers you can send....5 a day. Basically you have a choice of prewritten chat up lines. You can also wink, add to favorites or as a friend. All these things do is let the other person know you are interested.
After that, unless you pay it is impossible to make contact. As a woman I am able to send instant text chats....they pop up on the lower right corner of your screen. I am also able to respond to any man that sends me one. But as a man if you try to respond it sends you to the payment page.
If you try to send a message as a man you are sent to the payment page.
Interestingly enough, as a woman....I've tried this from two different female profiles...if you send a message (which you can) you can write whatever you want because when the man gets the message it says something completely different. It's quite bizarre...so here you send a nice message asking for more details from the man and they get a message who's information line says "boobs" and they can't read the body of the message without upgrading and paying. Rip off!
The site is easy to find your way around.
There are also chat rooms free to all non paying profiles but I haven't spent much time in there. I have read some posts where people try to put their contact info. I'll have to pay more attention and see if it gets bleeped out or if the next day the profile is gone from the database.
Until next time.....when I will also tell you about the numerous other sites same format as UpForIt.
Jane
It started with my husband offhandedly telling me he had started a profile on a site just for fun to see what would happen. I know.....I'm really stupid. But here's the info.
The site was and still is UpForIt.com
It's a company out of the UK. My husband has a profile, no picture....his location, physical stats and is rated as having a profile that is 20% complete. He is a standard non paying member. In other words he can't do much without upgrading.
Anyway, between his profile which I managed to get the password to and the fake female profiles I have made I have found out a lot. All non paying profiles, though I have seen a lot of online posts/complaints about this site where both men and women have given in and paid for a membership and didn't have much luck and when they tried to cancel the company continued to take payments from their banks. Not very nice. A common complaint that I saw was that just before their memberships were set to expire, they would get a lot of promising emails and then once they paid those possible hook ups vanished like a lot of smoke.
Anyway. as a non paying member you can do zip code searches and look at the profile including the main picture, their stats and anything else they have written about themselves. Then there are ice breakers you can send....5 a day. Basically you have a choice of prewritten chat up lines. You can also wink, add to favorites or as a friend. All these things do is let the other person know you are interested.
After that, unless you pay it is impossible to make contact. As a woman I am able to send instant text chats....they pop up on the lower right corner of your screen. I am also able to respond to any man that sends me one. But as a man if you try to respond it sends you to the payment page.
If you try to send a message as a man you are sent to the payment page.
Interestingly enough, as a woman....I've tried this from two different female profiles...if you send a message (which you can) you can write whatever you want because when the man gets the message it says something completely different. It's quite bizarre...so here you send a nice message asking for more details from the man and they get a message who's information line says "boobs" and they can't read the body of the message without upgrading and paying. Rip off!
The site is easy to find your way around.
There are also chat rooms free to all non paying profiles but I haven't spent much time in there. I have read some posts where people try to put their contact info. I'll have to pay more attention and see if it gets bleeped out or if the next day the profile is gone from the database.
Until next time.....when I will also tell you about the numerous other sites same format as UpForIt.
Jane
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Gone But Not Forgotten
I haven't been here for a while. It had nothing to do with the holidays but more frustration. For the past several months I've had secret access to my husbands alternative email, the one from which all this started where I found his friendfinder profile info. An added bonus lately was that he had his primary email forwarded to this mailbox and I have had access to that too. Then out of the blue he stops the forwarding. Which to me could mean several things.
He suspected I had access, which I sort of doubt because he is so arrogant that he wouldn't even think I had a clue.
He has tired of the online cheating scene, which I also doubt.
Or, he has decided to drop the alternative email address as his point of contact and has opened yet another email account. This is what I think is happening.
Look back at my post about email address that are not officially closed but left open.
So I wonder if he is gearing up again and I'm back to having to check every single email notification from all the online dating/sex sites and check all the profiles that look at mine.
Basically, 2 steps forward and 10 back.
Jane
He suspected I had access, which I sort of doubt because he is so arrogant that he wouldn't even think I had a clue.
He has tired of the online cheating scene, which I also doubt.
Or, he has decided to drop the alternative email address as his point of contact and has opened yet another email account. This is what I think is happening.
Look back at my post about email address that are not officially closed but left open.
So I wonder if he is gearing up again and I'm back to having to check every single email notification from all the online dating/sex sites and check all the profiles that look at mine.
Basically, 2 steps forward and 10 back.
Jane
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Do You Know What Your Email Address is Doing?
How many people have used an email account and then just let it go. Maybe, like my husband, you needed an "alternate" mode of communication and making contact, so you opened a Yahoo or Hotmail email, used it for 6 months or 2 years and for what ever reason left it unattended, unopened and eventually forgotten. From my experience Yahoo, Aol, Juno, Hotmail and MSN email accounts don't close themselves.
If you can recall your secret answer or still have access to the email that you used for sending password recovery information you can get back into and use an old email.
Usually, only emails that have been sent to it recently are still in the inbox. Messages from more than a few months ago are deleted. Contact information remains, but you need to be careful when you re-access the mail because sometimes you are asked questions and if you answer certain ways you retain more information, other wise you are starting fresh. Which is okay unless you are trying to find information as discussed in this blog.
Until next tine,
Jane
If you can recall your secret answer or still have access to the email that you used for sending password recovery information you can get back into and use an old email.
Usually, only emails that have been sent to it recently are still in the inbox. Messages from more than a few months ago are deleted. Contact information remains, but you need to be careful when you re-access the mail because sometimes you are asked questions and if you answer certain ways you retain more information, other wise you are starting fresh. Which is okay unless you are trying to find information as discussed in this blog.
Until next tine,
Jane
Sunday, November 20, 2011
BBWPersonalsplus.com
There are two sides to this post, first I'm going to give a review of this site and the other is that after all this time I found a new "old" profile of my husband online.
Periodically I do a Google search for online dating or online sex personals and I go to the top recommended sites and do the profile searches I explained in my post about how to recover passwords and screen names from dating sites.
Because one day, not too long ago my husband asked me if I knew what BBW meant, I clicked on the site BBWPersonalsplus.com, which turns out to be part of the Spark network (on which he had an old profile on Americansingles.com). On the page for forgotten password, I entered his two present email addresses and the old one he used for most of his profiles and there it was, he had a profile from 2001. Long before I met him.
But what gets me is this, we have had several conversations about the subject and every time he says that he never did that and the sheer number of old profiles I have found negate the possibility he tried one out of curiosity, so he's a liar.
Sometimes, a friend will tell me to just ask him, or confront him and I tell them that he will only lie.
Back to BBW Personals Plus...the set up is exactly like American Singles with all the same restrictions.
Read yesterdays post to get those details.
Until next time,
Jane
Periodically I do a Google search for online dating or online sex personals and I go to the top recommended sites and do the profile searches I explained in my post about how to recover passwords and screen names from dating sites.
Because one day, not too long ago my husband asked me if I knew what BBW meant, I clicked on the site BBWPersonalsplus.com, which turns out to be part of the Spark network (on which he had an old profile on Americansingles.com). On the page for forgotten password, I entered his two present email addresses and the old one he used for most of his profiles and there it was, he had a profile from 2001. Long before I met him.
But what gets me is this, we have had several conversations about the subject and every time he says that he never did that and the sheer number of old profiles I have found negate the possibility he tried one out of curiosity, so he's a liar.
Sometimes, a friend will tell me to just ask him, or confront him and I tell them that he will only lie.
Back to BBW Personals Plus...the set up is exactly like American Singles with all the same restrictions.
Read yesterdays post to get those details.
Until next time,
Jane
Monday, November 14, 2011
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